On Air with Ella podcast - episode 237
DIVORCE IS NO FUN.
...but divorce when kids are involved is even harder. Julie is here to talk to us about co-parenting after divorce, and she's sharing communication tools that can be applied in any high-conflict relationship. FREE OFFER! See her amazing free offer for the first 5 listeners that respond (below).
WHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT
Managing high-conflict relationships - communication strategies
Coparenting with an impossible ex
What to do when the co-parent isn't playing by the same rules
Protecting your kids from the effects of a high conflict divorce
There are sides to every story - everyone has their own truth
Recognizing the gray area in difficult situations (to help maintain your sanity!)
How you deal in these situations is what you're teaching your kids. - Julie B.
DO's & DON'Ts:
DO: Stop using the word narcissist
DON'T: No badmouthing your ex (or the other party)
DON'T battle about parenting preferences - the co-parent is a parent, too
DON'T fight the stories each of you have - everyone has their own truth
DO: Get familiar with the Control, Influence, Accept & Adapt model - get it here!
DON'T treat your child as your peer, your counselor, or your emotional crutch
DO: Choose your battles. Ask yourself: What Outcome Do I Want?
...What would you add?
FREE OFFER!
5 listeners will receive a free 30-minute session with Julie to write (or respond) to their ex together.
HOW TO ENTER: simply leave a podcast review in Apple or wherever you consume podcasts and send Ella a screenshot once it's live. You can DM me or email me!
ABOUT JULIE
Julie Beckerman is an Associate Certified Coach from the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching, as well as a certified career counselor from New York University. She has experience in Dialectic Behavior Therapy, Effective Communication, and Mindfulness techniques with a background working in business and Human Resources. Julie has experience navigating the transitions of divorce, as well as dealing with the loss of a loved one and addiction.
She says:
Thankfully...my divorce changed everything.
Divorce isn't easy, and mine was certainly no exception. In 2014, after 10 years of marriage, with the decision to get divorced, I began the most difficult, scary, confusing, angering, and liberating journeys of my life.
I navigated the waters of co-parenting, being a stay-at-home-mom, changing friendships, lawyers and courtrooms, living in the same house with my ex, relationships with ex in-laws, dating, my ex getting remarried, going back to work, moving to a new home, new school for my daughter, new job, starting a new career, a new life...
With the help of a solid support system, I began to see this as not just a challenge to get through, which it certainly was, but also an opportunity that had only just begun.
CONNECT WITH JULIE
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SOCIAL: @aspiretogrowth
EMAIL: Julie@aspiretogrowth.com
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xxoo Ella